Back to school is upon us. If your family is anything like ours, this time of year is a mix of relief because the kids have something to do and frustration because of the little unexpected extras a new school year brings. New fees, meetings with teachers, and practice schedules can play havoc with the family calendar. How do you find balance between school, work schedules (if your kids are older), extracurricular activities, and church, let alone time with family? It can be incredibly overwhelming!
Typically, the two things that suffer the most are time with family and church. Finding balance can be so difficult! If we aren’t intentional with our time, we find ourselves quickly becoming enslaved by the calendar. Waiting to get settled into a routine doesn’t work because routines tend to change so quickly. Before we realize it, the holiday season approaches and we are asking ourselves where the time has gone.
When we get caught living for tomorrow, today passes by quickly. We miss the moments where relationship could be built because the schedule demands we live life in fast forward, speeding from one event to the next. The modern family rarely eats a meal together that isn’t from a sack. It’s enough to make you want to pull your hair out while screaming, “No, I don’t want an apple pie with that! I want time to get to know my family better. You got any of that?”
Relax! Take a deep breath and let go of the clown’s throat. You can get through this school year with your family intact. All it takes is a little discipline and some planning! The hardest part is sticking to the plan when we so desperately want to hit the easy button.
Intentionality is crucial for a family in the hectic pace of society. Make a point of sitting at the table and eating a meal together, apart from electronic distractions. Take a few minutes to talk about their dreams and hopes. It doesn’t have to be an hour to make an impact. Fifteen minutes each day can build a solid relationship between parent and child. Make the moments you have each day count.
Planning out your mealtimes helps but you have to avoid the temptation to take the easy way out. Try a weekly menu and make it fun! Go for a walk together as a family. Once you establish a habit it’s so much easier to maintain. So make a plan and stick with it. Yes, it is hard, but remember what David said. “I will give the Lord nothing which costs me nothing.”